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Heisman Candidate
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![]() First off let me preface by saying that I think its completely busch to "hit" on a girl via Facebook if you don't really know her. But that brings up another question. When, if ever is it ok?
Example, you knew a girl/guy from somewhere in the past, have talked, but never anything beyond that. But you've always wanted to ask him/her out on a date and didn't. You finally work up the courage, but the chances of you seeing this person in public to ask face to face is a 1/1000000 chance. Is it then ok to at least ask to hang out or do whatever via Facebook and then ask for an official date in person? Discuss….Enjoy….Opinions….GO |
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Banneded
Male Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: He's Everywhere!
Posts: 22,904
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![]() IMO, "electronic communication" text, email, im whatever leaves out a lot of the "nonverbal" cues that come with normal human interaction, you don't even convey tone like when on a phone call, much less all of the physical cues that are there in person. The flip side is it would seem to make it easier for a person that is socially shy to do something outside of their "comfort zone" because they don't have to actually talk to, or look at the other person.
How old is this person? I have a young coworker whom I don't know if he has ever actually talked to his gf, I would guess they text each other while sitting across the table at dinner ![]()
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Raisinballin'
Male Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Greenville
Posts: 7,757
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![]() I asked a girl out on Facebook. We ended up dating and lived together for over 4 years. Would have got married but it turns out she's f*cking crazy...
Facebook is a great way to meet women. Unlike what johnnyb said, I think nonverbal cues can confuse the situation. Pretty cut and dry when you just ask if they want to grab a drink sometime. Very non-threatening way to ask a girl out. Plus, if that's something that makes you nervous, there's no way for them to pick up on it. Being honest, I look like a pretty interesting guy on Facebook. Then again, that goes for everybody else; her included. |
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Super Moderator
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1st Team All-SEC
Male Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Irmo, SC
Posts: 4,615
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![]() Interesting topic. I think there will be a wide variety of answers/opinions.
I agree that flirting with or hitting on someone via Facebook is weak. In my opinion, that always comes across as creepy and pervey. As for actually asking someone out, I think it's best to do it in person or at least over the phone. If you had no way of contacting them except for Facebook, then there's nothing wrong with that. I would at least send them a private message instead of posting it to their wall because I wouldn't want the whole world knowing my intentions and the possible embarrassment if she declined. Maybe it's just me, but I don't think I could ever develop a crush on someone where Facebook was our only option for communication. Doesn't seem like you could get to know them well enough to want to ask them out. All that said, I did, back in the day, ask a girl out via AOL IM. We were out on Christmas break, didn't have cell phones and I didn't know her home number. I had been drinking at a NYE party (wasn't drunk, but inebriated enough to do this) and started chatting with her after I got home. I decided it would be a good idea to tell her I had a crush on her and asked her out on a date for when we got back to Carolina. She politely declined, things got awkward, and our friendship drifted apart. Luckily enough for me I met the woman that would eventually become my wife about 3 weeks later. And, yes, I did ask her out in person. |
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Gamecock4Life
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![]() Facebook isn't suppose to be a dating site but it has pretty much turned into that..
I don't see a problem with asking a girl out over facebook to get to know them better. Maybe exchange phone numbers first so that you can at least talk to the person first.
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Raisinballin'
Male Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Greenville
Posts: 7,757
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#8 |
Household Name
Male Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Sacramento, CA
Posts: 6,754
CockyCash: 10590 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
![]() There's the flip side of social media as well - going out with someone you would never have a chance to go out with in real life. There's that high school kid in Minnesota who is taking Michelle Beadle to his prom. Then there are the other celebrities and popular people who have said yes (a recent one was a cheerleader for an NFL team). They got asked out or connected via social media. So there's the good side of it too - you get opportunities you wouldn't otherwise have.
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Heisman Winner
Male Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: SC
Posts: 25,349
CockyCash: 1233026 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
![]() Facebook has replaced the chat rooms
No longer do we have to ask a/s/l? |
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#10 |
BIGGER. STRONGER.LONGER
Male Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Club Fields
Posts: 7,282
CockyCash: 200 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
![]() I would never ask a girl on a date via fb, ive been talking to a girl on fb before, stopped and called her to ask her out, when i ask her out i want her to hear the sincerity in my voice when i ask her out.
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1st Team All-American
Male Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Houston, TX
Posts: 12,100
CockyCash: 101850400 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
![]() Tinder is about as easy as it gets... this is what I hear. I have never actually been on tinder due to the fact that I am in a relationship.
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#12 |
Household Name
Male Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Greenville, SC
Posts: 5,536
CockyCash: 1000200 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
![]() If you really like her, message her your # so you can actually have phone conversation, hear each other; texting and conversing through FB or any other social site, much like this one, doesn't convey voice inflextions, as another poster said, this way she can hear how serious you are.
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#13 |
Jersey Retired
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![]() I had a girl email me on FB and we dated for a while. Originally I thought it was a joke since she was smoking hot. But she was legit and it would have turned very serious except she had to move out of the country due to family issues.
But personally, I would never hit on someone on FB.
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Banned
Male Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Nashville
Posts: 2,870
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![]() This is why Tinder exists.
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Grumpy Old Fart
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![]() I've met lots of people on FB. Not for dating but I have made friends with a good many people with whom I share interests.
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Raisinballin'
Male Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Greenville
Posts: 7,757
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![]() I signed up for Tinder today. Never heard of it until you guys mentioned it. Thanks in advance!
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#17 |
Two Deep
Male Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 1,152
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Damn Yankee
Male Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Baltimore, MD
Posts: 19,039
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![]() No NO NO...DO not ask someone out over FB. Grow a sack and do it in person.
What is this world coming to? The younger generations cannot comprehend face to face communication its sad. They just want to hide behind a screen or their phone. Catfishing would not exist if it werent for the internet |
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1st Team All-American
Male Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: columbia sc
Posts: 14,777
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Former Walk On in-law
Male Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Lugoff, SC
Posts: 11,857
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![]() Very interesting... It does make sense.
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